Think… 
…fit through stress not in spite of stress
…meeting requirements in a chaotic world
…managing your emotions under intense pressure

Resilience is defined as the capability of a strained body to recover its size and shape after deformation caused especially by compressive stress. Basically stress is a part of life that believe it or not we all need.

Our resilience or ability to recover from or adjust easily to misfortune or change is in the attitude that we choose to take. Do we see ourselves as fit through stress not in spite of stress? We fail when we become brittle and unable to absorb more stress. Instead, view stress as a challenge, something to solve rather than an attack upon us. Think of our immune systems. A robust immune system can resist diseases that will kill some people and poor immune systems are not hardy enough to resist incoming diseases.

If you think that you can set up concrete barriers to keep stress at bay, think again. You are wrong. Stress is life. Life is stress. A rich and good life is a life lived out there in the real world, the bustling world, the sometimes scary world.

Releasing them and use that stored up energy
for strong forward drive.
From resistance to resilience

Fear is the oldest and strongest emotion of mankind. Now this is both good and bad. Good? Yes. Fear, and its fright, flight and fight behaviors that follow clearly serve us well in many an situation. They remove us for the source of danger. Without the mechanism of fear that snake would get us, that tiger would eat us.

Yet fear has a another, different face. “Fears are educated into us, and can, if we wish, be educated out” (Karl Augustus Menninger). The fears that we hold so dear to us, that accompany us daily are mostly of the second variety. “I’m not good enough” “They won’t like me.” “No matter how hard I try, I’ll fail”. Thoughts like these, the ones that zoom around in our mind again and again are conditioned. So, they can be un-conditioned. And thanks to new technologies of mind (Neuro-linguistic-programming) and body (biofeedback) and energy psychology (EFT, Thought Field Therapy, Be Set Free Fast, Matrix Reimprinting) overcoming these types of fears is relatively simply nowadays.

The same holds true for blocks and phobias. Blocks, fears and phobias drain our energy and mental capacities in the same manner that holding on to emotions such as anger and unforgiveness do. The successful person learns how to release these negatives and put that stored up energy to good use driving forward to achieving all that they were created to.

Building upon excellence and success to the next level

Rebooting from crisis mode to success and well-being mode

“There is ALWAYS a solution to the problem, and pssst….it’s normally there just around the corner.” 

Let’s get it straight. We are ALL competent, capable and talented. We ALL have the skills that we need to create the life that we envision.  Then problems come up.  Life happens.  This simply means that life pushes us to a new level of responsibilities.  So “where do I go from here?”

You will find that you go through 3 important steps on your way to answering that question.  The first is to “reboot.”  You have to put this new life stumble or new responsibility into perspective.  See it as merely a small stumbling block on the path to your dream and the life want to enjoy.  Clarify your goal. Clarify your vision.  Get clear.

Next figure out what got you stuck in the first place. 

Today’s world of chaotic change and barrage of rapidly changing expectations seemingly is affecting everybody. Many of us “major in minors,” the rest of us “minor in majors.”

Stress level rising? Do you feel your personality shifting and not quite sure you like what you see? Feeling thin-skinned or feeling the need to control yourself more than usual? Your future look dimmer?

But think about it. Really, what’s gone astray here?

The other day I was traveling with a woman I know for a quick R&R trip to Charleston. We were taking a brief respite from our normal life, chilling. Out there on the interstate was another car. With a not so chilled driver at its helm. In the left hand lane and, ironically, at going at a snail’s pace. And me wanting to pass – on the left as I was taught (a long, long time ago). So without thinking I flashed him from behind with one sole flash of the headlights. Wrong move! From that point on for the next several minutes he played tag with me. In front of me, behind me, beside me. Close-up. Then came the things tossed out of his windows at my car. What could have ended up badly didn’t. He exited. I continued….

Crushed under the weight of daily information needs? Notice yourself making mistakes and spending more time correcting them? Make decisions with speed and confidence!

The age of technology, rapid information processing and increasing expectations are upon us. Down deep we know that we are proficient and possess all of the skills needed to accomplish our goals. However the ever-changing world has some of us making more mistakes, working in reactive mode, constantly back-tracking and letting the little voice of insecurity creep in. It is high time to put all of that aside and remember what we are made of. We get perspective about where we want to be.

What motivates you deeply? In life? In your career? Why did you really take that job, marry that person or start that family in the first place? Give yourself plenty of time to ferret out the answers. And when you’ve got them, savor it! Reflect forward seeing vividly the life that you will have. Now reflect backwards again remembering your key drives. Now then RELAX.

Take this challenge and let me know how it works for you….

How to get and keep the information, knowledge, skills, tasks, jobs, and responsibilities.

Know that without a shadow of a doubt that you can get and keep the information, knowledge, skills, tasks, jobs, responsibilities that are vital to your success. And know that it’s just simple human nature to want to trudge back to your comfort zone. We humans just don’t like change too much. That’s biologically in our genes. It helps us to survive in a round-about way. So don’t let yourself be shocked when you find yourself questioning your learning capabilities. Every profession has core competencies that are required. I have never met a professional unable to learn a new competency easily. The trick is to learn how to rid yourself of the beliefs and/or environment that blocks learning.

People that have to learn new competencies have to be willing to take the risk. Taking that risk means not focusing on the perceived consequences of your actions. Instead focus on moments in your life where you’ve succeeded very well in learning something. Now, and this is big, know that this absolutely is still in you and that you can still do it. Banish the lingering “I’m too old, slowing down, not smart enough, too much to lose” doubts. Taking the time to work on your self-doubts is huge and working on any environmental conditions holding you back will give you the confidence to take the risk and master the learning that you so desire.

Living in a messy, confused corporate present?

• Rein in a chaotic brain
• Setting goals and reaching them

Professional and Entrepreneur ADHD

Great!  It’s that energy and smarts that got you this far.  So add some structure and organization to make a go of it from here on out.

All of the science and the research tells us that a person’s brain with ADHD is structured differently.  Many people out there believe that this means wrongly.  Clearly they are wrong. While this structure may feel like a disease, it really should be considered a real talent.  No place is this talent side more evident than in the entrepreneurial world.  The entrepreneurial spirit thrives on big vision and challenges making it a perfect place for the professional who was given the label back at school Attention Deficit Hyperactive Disorder. 

The ADHD state of mind (=state of grace) is always in need of a challenge. Always. Always!  The more the merrier.  More - professionals with ADHD traits are often multi-dimensional thinkers, extremely sensitive to their environment, highly creative and excel (!) at learning when they are interested in what they are learning and not being force fed and having to regurgitate it.   

Admittedly, there are some negatives that do come with this talented mindset.  Distractibility, procrastination, impulsiveness and fogginess often plague the individual with ADHD. 

The key is to remember that these are meant to be managed rather than treated.  Be honest now: if it were you, would YOU want to get rid of this talented mindset?  Of course not!